If you're one of the millions of adoptive families who has started and completed an adoption, you know that like most things in life, hindsight is 20/20. Usually. But what are some of the things most adoptive parents wish they'd known before or during the adoption process?
The adoption process is difficult, yet rewarding. There are many ups and downs, and most are out of your control. But adoptive parents must be thorough and diligent with what they are asked to do (and let's be honest - sometimes it feels redundant and excessive!), and then be willing to let the process unfold in its own timetable. In other words...there are just some things you can't control. But part of the great strength of adoptive parents is the realization that things do work out, one way or another, the way they are supposed to.
Talk with other families and couples who have been through the process before. We gain strength by sharing experiences. And while no two adoptions are alike, the processes can be similar. And it's always nice to know you're not alone!
Don't ever feel that because you're adopting a child, you don't have the right to state your needs. So many prospective adoptive couples seem to feel guilty or sheepish when they are asked to state what they are - and are not - willing and able to deal with. Take time, think it over, and then state what will and will not work for your family; race, age, special needs, etc. No one lives the rest of your life but you, so it is imperative to make the best possible decisions that impact your lives forever.
Expect the unexpected!
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