Sunday, February 6, 2011

Heartfelt Words...

Adoption is my favorite subject.  Be careful asking me any questions on adoption, because I will answer.  As adoptive parents, we all have a story to tell. Maybe it's the day we were matched with birthmom. Maybe it's the call to get on the plane.  Maybe it's a birthmother's broken promise and the subsequent heartbreak.  Maybe it's the first time we finally held our baby, and the fierce jet lag seemed to evaporate instantly.  Maybe it's the feeling we finally had that our family is complete. 

Yet, as much as I love to tell (and re-tell) our stories of adoption,  I love equally to hear others' stories of their adoption journies.  Connecting with other adoptive parents allows us to laugh out loud, grieve a loss, have the "a-ha" moment of recognition and identifying on a personal level, or fight back tears as we reflect on the many different, yet similar, roller coaster rides through the adoption process.

Below you will find a list of wonderful books that share many different aspects and stories of adoption.  But I'm also interested in yours.  We gain strength and perspective as we share stories of adoption with each other.  Send me yours! Reply via comment to this post and we can enjoy hearing and connecting as adoptive families through our very individual yet similar stories.  Get typing, people!

Good reads in the meantime....
  • Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother,” by Jana Wolff
    A fiercely honest look at the emotional complexities of the adoption process.
  • Pre-Parenthood,” by Jeanne Marie Laskas
    It's home study day and I'm not perfect yet.
  • Intimate Strangers,” by Jacquelyn Mitchard
    She was going to have a child but couldn't keep it, I wanted a child desperately but couldn't have one. She was the mother at birth; I was the mother right after. It sounded simple, but it wasn't.
  • An Unexpected Family,” by Bob Shacochis
    For eight years, my wife and I watched our chances of having a baby evaporate. Then our eleven-year-old niece came to live with us, bringing with her a bittersweet deliverance.
  • How Does She Do It?,” by Laura Broadwell
    Yes, solo parenting is hard work. But the freedom's good, too.
  • Guarding Tess: A Father's Story,” by Timothy S. McCarty
    I learned that the ultimate gift of love comes not from the receiver, but from the giver.
  • Changing My Name to Mom,’” by Annie Kassof
    As she prepares for the adoption of her third child, the author knows it is not just she who must be ready, but also the 9-year-old girl she's fallen in love with.
  • We've Always Done It That Way” by Rose Godfrey
    The uncharted journey of our first Christmas together etched a road of heart-warming traditions.
  • “Ready-To-Parent,” by Joe Mills
    The "Daddy Moment" hits in the middle of the baby emporium.
  • The Perfect Season of the Heart,” by Robert Klose
    A father and son find that, in the face of catastrophe, despair, and death, the antidote is life.
  • Old Bones,” by Eliza Thomas
    I've reached a point in life where both my young daughter and my aging mother depend on me. Can I afford to be fragile?
  • Raising California,” by Nelson Handel
    Families are forming in all sorts of ways, in a rainbow of colors, and my son is growing up right in the middle of all of it.
  • Grace Notes,” by Carrie Howard
    When I vowed that my child would get as many bedtime songs as she wanted, I hadn't counted on this particular child's determination.
Happy reading - and writing!

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